Thursday, August 20, 2020

Trust the Process

 We all have our own way of doing things.  When that way comes into conflict with someone else’s, it can lead to tension.  Sometimes, the other way is actually more efficient than our way and it leads to good changes in our own processes.  Other times, a different way just doesn’t work for us.  That’s okay.  We can respectfully move on with our lives, being grateful for the exposure to a different method, but leaving it for the other person to take advantage of.

The problem is, that is not what we as humans are inclined to do.  We may want to rebel.  We may want to change everyone else, to bring them around to our way of doing things because our way is obviously better (in our minds, at least).

This can lead to difficulties when we come up against a process that doesn’t work for us, but is the required way of completing a task.  When this happens, it helps to stop and try to understand why this way doesn’t work for us.  What can we learn about the way it must be done that might make it easier for us?  What might we need to change about ourselves in order to make it easier?

Rigidity can turn into a very bad thing if it is not maintained for good reason.

Often, you might hear the phrase “Trust the process” in regard to behavioral changes that are meant to better ourselves.  The same can be said for much more mundane processes, such as planning for an event and facing hurdles along the way.  What are we meant to learn from this struggle?  Is it something about ourselves?  Is it something about the process itself?  Is it meant to be a larger life lesson for us?

If you find yourself struggling to adapt as we enter the beginnings of our “new normal,” think about these things.  Take your struggles and feelings of uncertainty to God.  He is always present in our church buildings in the Eucharist, and He is always with us, even when it might feel as if He has abandoned us.  Never lose hope and faith in Him.

Thursday, August 13, 2020

Everything I Really Need to Know, I Learned from...

 It has been a running joke in my family that we “kids” (adults now, but we’ll always be the “kids” to our parents) can quote just about any Disney movie from our formative years at length.  This includes a LOT of Winnie the Pooh.  My dad is known to lament our lack of knowledge of “the greats” like Shakespeare, in such depth…  To which I respond:  “Life’s but a walking shadow – a poor player who struts and frets his hour on the stage and then is heard no more” (“Macbeth”, Act 5 Scene 5).  In other words:  Life is short.  Let us get our enjoyment where we can!

Give us a lead in, and we’ll give you a quote. My sister-in-law is a self-proclaimed Disney addict, so now, it’s even more true.  Disney has a life lesson for just about every situation.  It’s true, some of the older Disney animated classics are “problematic” when viewed through the lens of our modern world, but that doesn’t mean the life lessons and core values are any less meaningful.

Some examples:

Jiminy Cricket from Pinocchio – “Let your conscience be your guide.”

Dumbo – Be accepting of those who are different from you.

Thumper from Bambi – “If you can’t say somethin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.”

Cinderella – “I know it isn’t easy, but we should all at least try to get along with one other.”

Alice in Wonderland – “‘Be patient,’ is very good advice, but the waiting makes me curious.”

Peter Pan – “Sooner or later … people have to grow up.”

Sleeping Beauty – Perseverance in the face of adversity and evil.

One Hundred and One Dalmatians – Taking charge of a situation. – “The humans have tried everything, now it’s up to us dogs.”

The Aristocats – Not judging based solely on first appearances

The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh – Acceptance of people as they are (Rabbit accepting Tigger for who he is) and the importance of loyalty

Beauty and the Beast – Looking beyond someone’s outward appearance to the person they are inside

Pocahontas – Respect for nature and respect for other cultures

The Emperor’s New Groove – Respecting others and not being full of oneself.

Ratatouille – following your dreams – You can be anything you set your mind to being.

There are, of course, many, many more.  What are some of your favorite life lessons and Disney quotes?

Thursday, August 6, 2020

Constant Vigilance is Unrealistic for Us but NOT for God

You know why everyone pretty much ignored Mad-Eye Moody (or really Barty Crouch Jr., who was pretending to be Mad-Eye Moody) in Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire?  Probably because he was always harping on about constant vigilance, and people were tired.  People were tired of having to keep their guard up all the time.  They had lived through eleven years of Voldemort, followed by thirteen years of relative calm and they thought the worst was over.  Not Moody!  He knew what would happen when and if he relaxed, and it did.

Constantly being on alert is tiring.  We are tempted to give up when things get difficult or drag on for weeks or months on end.  We are merely human after all.  But that is not how God works.  God can maintain constant vigilance because He is a divine being.  He does not suffer the same “weaknesses” of humanity.  That is why we can and should always place our trust in Him.

Fr. Erik mentioned in his homily this past weekend that if God ever stopped caring for us, we would simply cease to exist.  This same theme comes up in our Gospel reading for this coming Sunday.  Peter goes to Jesus across the water of the Sea of Galilee and when he starts to doubt, he begins to sink.  But Jesus is there to lift him up again and help him back on the path of following him.

When our vigilance wavers, God is always there waiting for us to return to Him.  In what ways have you lost your path, and how can you ask for help to return to God?